At 52 I’ve discovered I’m not too bad of a waiter (server for the pc folks)
Are you sitting in a waiting room or waiting in a sitting room?
Kinda depends on why you sat your ass down in the first place.
I am a healer, and working on my comedy career. Growing up and working in the construction industry and problem‑solving environments, I taught myself early how to see structure—internally and externally. Today, I use that same foundational mindset to help people rebuild themselves from the inside out. And if I crack a joke or two along the way I know how to make it funny enough to not get beat up (most of the time). Not everyone likes my sense of humor. Some don’t even like to have a conversation with me.
From childhood, I could sense emotions, energy patterns, and unspoken truths. What once felt like a burden became a gift. My empathic abilities and intuitive clarity allow me to see what others can’t: the energetic imprints shaping a person’s behaviors, patterns, and perception of reality. Through my Emotional Common Sense process, I can help individuals identify the subconscious structures that keep them stuck, integrate the ego with unconditional love, and activate their intuitive discernment—the bridge between the ego and the heart. A good laugh-cry always helps. I’m working on my comedy style and George Carlin has been more than an influence in why I’m getting into comedy now at this stage in life - he’s my inspiration right now.
My work is the intersection of intuition, psychology, energy, and embodiment. I do not teach people to escape themselves—I teach them to return to themselves. I prefer finding the humor in the mundane - it breaks the monotony and invites healthy conversation.
The curse of clarity that nobody talks about
If this is earth school then how do we graduate? Why does clarity only show you the mental maturity level of other people?
How do you know what grade you are in and when will you know it’s time to graduate?
This is the curse of clarity. The backfire of awareness. And the cost of waking up.
You will carry the curse, mitigate the fall out, and pay the price.
The curse of clarity starts to lose its impact when you start using that clarity to work on relationships and dynamics. You may not have anyone to mirror back the same maturity level that you are operating with, but it can show you who can grow and who is at a level that they do not intend on graduating from any time soon. You can’t have adult conversations with children. And sometimes you can’t tell if you are the adult, the teenager, or the petulant child, but if you are aware, at least you can tell that there is a difference. It’s been said that earth is a school in which we are supposed to learn how to handle our emotions. According to most spiritual literature, our souls are here to have the human experience with all the emotions and we are given a reset when we are born by not being able to remember anything about who we really are – we are supposed to spend our lives figuring that out.
I don’t like school and I only want to figure out things that matter. When I talk about the ‘level’ that people are on, I’m talking about the emotional maturity level that they are on. And if you are doing the work and trying to grow into a better version of yourself, that version may need to start paying attention to the upper classmen and stop hanging out in the arcade or playing video games. Start gravitating and attracting people in your life that are not only on your level but maybe even a few levels above – get to know them and learn from them.
Most people are operating under a false assumption. They think emotions can be controlled – and they can – but it comes at a cost. You can shove down every emotional reaction you have and on the surface you may seem like Joe Cool – until one day you snap. Or you can witness them and try to learn something about yourself in the process. I suggest the later. That sense of control is what most people don’t want to let go of. But that is all it is is a ‘sense’ – you think you are in control but you are not. Carl Jung said that until the unconscious is made conscious it will rule your life and you will call it fate. It’s time to take stock of what level of school you are stuck in and make a plan to graduate.
Take ownership of your clarity – not as a curse anymore, but as a guide. The fall out you become aware of no longer has to be mitigated, your awareness starts to put out fires before they start. The price is still high but worth it. Waking up is not for the weak. It’s much easier to stay asleep – that’s why most people choose to just get dopamine hits from their phones, stay in relationships that are predictable and controllable, and they have a carefully curated self-image that helps them sleep at night. If that is you then I’m not sure why you are still watching. This video is very surface level, this type of clarity will not come from a single video, teacher, Guru, or religious leader. It is a practice.
You will eventually discover that there are no such thing as curses, if something backfires it just means the fuel was too rich, and the price of freedom is never too high.
The intriguing world of Machiavelli and the art of compartmentalization
.My theory that Machiavelli is not only a cognitive empath but an emotional one as well. One of the main concepts I want to bring forward is Machiavelli’s principle of “see what is, not what you wish” – this is the ability to see interactions and conversations for what they really are – void of your own emotions and bias. We’ll explore how Machiavelli’s strategic principles not only shaped political thought but also how these concepts can help us recognize and protect ourselves from manipulation in our everyday lives. Whether you consider yourself a cognitive empath or not, there’s a lot we can learn from these timeless teachings.” And if you don’t consider yourself a cognitive empath, you can learn to cultivate this empathy. Just like emotional empathy, cognitive empathy can be cultivated with conscious practice.
Brief Introduction to Machiavelli:
“To start, let’s briefly introduce Niccolò Machiavelli. He was a Renaissance political philosopher, best known for his work ‘The Prince,’ where he explored the often pragmatic and sometimes controversial methods of political leadership. While Machiavelli’s teachings often focused on power, strategy, and realpolitik, they also provide a fascinating lens through which we can examine how compartmentalization works in both leadership and personal interactions.”
Examples of Compartmentalization:
“For instance, Machiavelli emphasized the importance of appearing virtuous while sometimes acting pragmatically, and we can see this in modern leaders who separate personal emotions from tough decision-making. In business, CEOs often compartmentalize to make objective choices, and in negotiations, separating personal attachments helps maintain strategic focus. Even in personal boundaries, compartmentalization can help prevent burnout and keep our emotional well-being intact.”
Connecting to Self-Protection:
“By understanding these principles, we can better defend ourselves against manipulation. It’s not about being cynical; it’s about empowering ourselves with awareness and resilience. By recognizing how compartmentalization works, we can maintain our emotional balance and stay grounded.”
Workshop Title: Cultivating Cognitive Empathy: Understanding and Navigating Machiavellian Dynamics
1. Introduction to Machiavelli:
• Overview: We’ll begin by exploring Niccolò Machiavelli’s core principles from “The Prince,” emphasizing his pragmatic approach to power and leadership.
• Example: We might discuss historical figures like Cesare Borgia, highlighting how his cunning strategies mirror Machiavellian principles.
2. Spotting Manipulation:
• Overview: We’ll delve into how Machiavellian tactics manifest in everyday interactions, from subtle persuasion to overt manipulation.
• Example: Through interactive scenarios, we could explore common manipulative behaviors, such as gaslighting or emotional manipulation, and discuss how to recognize them.
3. Cultivating Cognitive Empathy:
• Overview: We’ll explore the concept of cognitive empathy, focusing on the ability to understand and appreciate another person’s perspective without necessarily sharing their emotions.
• Example: We can incorporate role-playing exercises where participants practice stepping into someone else’s shoes, helping them build a deeper understanding of differing viewpoints.
4. Practical Applications:
• Overview: We’ll conclude by connecting these insights to real-world scenarios, showing participants how to apply cognitive empathy and strategic awareness in their personal and professional interactions.
• Example: We could have a group discussion or a case study where participants reflect on their own experiences and brainstorm ways to implement these skills in everyday life.
While Machiavelli didn’t explicitly list out “iron rules” in a numbered format, his key principles can be distilled into a few core ideas. We will focus on 5 of them in the workshop:
The Ends Justify the Means: Leaders should be willing to do whatever is necessary to achieve their goals, even if it means resorting to deception or cruelty.
1. The Ends Justify the Means:
Example: Imagine a leader who needs to secure a peace treaty but must negotiate with a difficult counterpart who’s known for being untrustworthy. By applying cognitive empathy, the leader can understand the counterpart’s motivations, fears, and desires. This deeper insight allows the leader to tailor their approach, potentially using diplomacy or strategic concessions to achieve the end goal without unnecessary conflict.
The Importance of Appearances: Maintaining a favorable public image is crucial. Leaders should appear virtuous, even if they are not, because perception often outweighs reality.
2. The Importance of Appearances:
Example: Consider a manager who must maintain trust and authority even while making tough decisions. Cognitive empathy helps the manager anticipate how employees might perceive these decisions. By understanding their perspectives, the manager can communicate more effectively, ensuring that the outward appearance of integrity and care is preserved, even when tough choices are made.
Adaptability: A successful ruler must be flexible and adapt to changing circumstances, sometimes altering their approach as needed.
3. Adaptability:
Example: In a rapidly changing business environment, a leader who uses cognitive empathy can sense shifts in employee morale or market trends. By staying attuned to these perspectives, the leader can pivot strategies and adapt more smoothly, ensuring that the organization remains resilient and responsive.
The Value of Fear Over Love: While it’s ideal for a ruler to be loved and feared, if one must choose, it’s safer to be feared than loved, because fear is more reliable.
4. The Value of Fear Over Love:
Example: In situations where strict adherence to rules is necessary, cognitive empathy can help a leader understand the underlying fears and motivations of their team. This understanding allows the leader to maintain authority while also mitigating resentment, striking a balance between discipline and empathy
Pragmatism in Morality: Morality is secondary to effectiveness. A ruler must be willing to set aside conventional ethics if it serves the greater good of the state.
5. Pragmatism in Morality:
Example: When making tough ethical decisions, cognitive empathy helps leaders see the bigger picture and the human impact of their actions. This allows them to balance moral considerations with practical outcomes, ensuring that decisions are both effective and compassionate.
These principles are often summarized as the core of Machiavellian thought, and they’ve influenced political theory for centuries.
By weaving cognitive empathy into each of these principles, participants can learn to navigate complex situations with both strategic insight and human compassion.
Conclusion:
“In wrapping up, it’s important to recognize that compartmentalization is a powerful tool that many people naturally use, whether they’re aware of it or not. By understanding and harnessing this concept, you can strengthen your own resilience and protect yourself from manipulation. Remember, it’s not about negativity but about empowering yourself with knowledge. Embrace the power of these insights, and let them be a tool for your own growth and protection.”